My friend has an eating disorder..help?Well, I guess i just don't know what to do..iv'e tried EVERYTHING!!
Well it started about two weeks ago when she was telling me how excited she was because she had lost 2 kilos, and how she had a BIG fight with this girl from her school about it, because her 'friend' told her she was being an attention seeker..
ANYWAYYY she went on this big rant about it but started talking about her weight and stuff, and i just knew the way she was talking about it...
she has an eating disorder..
She hardly eats anything at all and when she does she almost cries because she says it makes her feel really sick, she only really eats a little at dinner because they sit down as a family.. but even then she doesnt eat much!!
She is a skinny girl, not stick thin but i'd say a bit below the average weight of girls her age.. But the reason I think she doesnt eat much ever, EVEN dinner is because her mum is just pushing this whole thing along.
She has been telling her for years that she is overweight...
not in a 'your so fat' kind of way but in a 'gosh you would be so much happier if you were skinny..' kind of way.
so at dinner if she doesnt eat much her mum always says how proud she is of her.
I find this bit reaaaaallly twisted.. her mum takes her shopping every time she looses 4 kilos!!
and with her weight and structure there is only so many times she can loose 4 kilos before she has to go to hospital or something!!
I think i just made everything worse, though..
since i told her that i think she had an eating disorder she tried too make herself throw up twice.. like idk i gave her ideas or something :S:S:S:S
she knows she has an ed, she knows what she's doing is wrong and she knows that what her mum is doing is also wrong.. she hates it.. but the thing is she doesnt care :( she says that she knows its bad but it works so she is going to keep doing it.
Its at the point were she doesnt eat anything at all, and its not even a struggle because when she eats she feels low and sick and basically just sobs :|
I've tried everything from telling her how thin she is and complelmenting her but it doesnt help, it annoys her and she thinks im lying.., i took her to donut king the other day (when i was in town, now i live somewhere else and i was just visiting..) but she didnt eat anything, offered to take her to a health clinic, told her good ways to loose weight even though she doesnt need it, showed her support websites and stuff,
even stupid silly things like trying to get her to write down all the things that make her happy :| lol. but IM OUT OF IDEAS!!
the other say i came so close to ringing her mum and telling her a thing or too... but i know that wont help and only cause problems.
i thought about ringing her dad but... idk.
i dont want to betray her trust, but if i can't help her any other way i might have to ring her parents because its like betray her trust/watch her die ;\ ;\ ;\
HELP!!!!
what can i do?!?!?
Posted by perfectlikeliars
Aw, that's really sweet of you. I hope my friends care that much when (and if) they find out i have an eating disorder! Haha.
Anyways... there really isnt much you can do. i know it's hard sit back and watch a good friend slowly kill herself, but you can't force her into anything. It's especially hard that her own mother doesnt care!!!! (what a bitch!)
An eating disordered person truely needs help... an im not just talking about going to a therapist a couple times a week. The only real way to help her is to somehow get her into an inpatient treatment center, where her health and eating habits can be monitered and improved. If her dad will do something, tell him. If not, then there is two other options:
- convince her to go to a treatment center herself
or
- call Child Protective Services. I know this sounds horrible and extreme, but if her parents fully understand the extent and dangers of your friend's condidtion and refuse to help her, then she is in serious trouble. Some parents, however, are simply in denial and can't admit that their child has a problem. In this case, you could take your friend to the doctor and have him/her personally call her parents to confirm and address the issue.
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