How to deal with a difficult brother?I'm a 17 year old guy. He's 18. He goes to college, I'm finishing up my last month of high school.
He's a cocky, smug, arrogant, selfish, hypocritical liberal. He thinks just because he's in college that he is somehow more important than me. It's always been like this. When we used to share a room, when he just started middle school even if I wanted the light off it would stay on because "his schoolwork is more important than mine." Then I got to middle school and if he wanted to go to sleep the light would go off.
He thinks he's a mature and independent adult (even though his own mom drives him to work in a mini-van) and get so angry when anyone questions his adulthood. He looks for reasons to fight and even if my brother or sister walks through his room he goes off an a rampage and nearly hits them! He tells everyone in the house to "calm down" when anything bad happens (like we're all a bunch of nervous wrecks) yet when I simply took his finished clothes out of the drier the other day because I had to be somewhere in 30 minutes h started screaming at me-- even though there have been times when my clothes were drying for school in the morning and he just took them out while they were wet because he had to dry his work clothes-- he's more important, remember?
At the beginning of senior year I had 7 classes, an additional college class, a baby-sitting job, and an rop class, and my brother was telling me "You need to get a job man. You need to see what the 'real' world is like." He works at Burger King and he's a year older than me for f*ck's sake.... My schedule is busy as hell and I'm constantly bouncing all over town trying to get to my appointments on time and I have this @ss telling me I need "to see what the real world is like?"
He lectures my mom like she's 5 years old and yells at her. She messed up today on the computer and he starts telling her "get away from the computer. GO AWAY." even though she bought it.
Whenever it's someone's birthday he always eats their cake and doesn't even leave a piece for them yet on his birthday he demands that no one eats his cake and screams at anyone who even eats a piece.
He's very liberal and just because the rest of the family is conservative he thinks we're all "a bunch of hypocrites." He constantly brings up bible references against conservatives because conservatives "are evil capitalists." He thinks a CEO "robs" the people that work for him because he;s "Stealing hours of their life." He believes bush planned 9/11 and that we didn't go to the moon, etc.
He always talks about "respect" and no one gives him respect and he lectures my silblings they need to start "treating him with respect" even though he cusses at his own mom and has absolutely no respect for anyone. He comes in the house a 2:30 AM when my mom told him to be home at 1 (fair enough right?) and when she gets angry at him he tells her "Who THE F*CK are YOU?" "YOU JUST SIT ON YOUR FAT @SS ALL DAY LONG." He says that he "works hard (working at Burger king is sooooo hard, right?) and that my mom is a "lazy cow" (the same woman that drives him to work, laid for a week straight on the hospital floor when he was dying of pneumonia, picked him up from school every day from school when he was in high school, etc.)
And HE has the NERVE to talk about RESPECT?
This guy is a loon. I can't stand listening to him talk. He gives "life lessons" to my mom and thinks he knows it all and has "lived life" at 18 years of age.
Another thing. I have general anxiety disorder and depression and my brother cusses at me when I have anxiety attacks. He whistles and I ask him nicely to stop because I'm having an anxiety attack, he ignores me and whistles louder and screams at me "YOU BRING IT ON YOURSELF DUMB @SS." One time I was sitting alone in the kitchen and I was having an anxiety attack so I asked him to please eat his food in his room. He ignores me and keeps talkign to me and I say pleeaaaaase and he starts cussing at me "F*CK YOU. What the F*CK are you going to do when you get to college b*Tch?"
If he had any idea how horrible anxiety and depression is he wouldn't say that to me. He's a bigot though and thinks he can put himself in anyone else's shoes. I'm 6'6 and tell my mom I wish I was shorter and my brother's like "you idiot being 6'6 is good. I wish I was 6'6. If I was 6'6 I would be proud and not slouch." How the f*ck does he know that? He's only 6'1. You know what I mean. He doesn't know what it feels like to have anxiety attack or severe depression or he doesn't know what it feels like to have your head sticking up above EVERYONE elses' in a crowd and gives me "advice" on this crap which he ha no idea what it's like.
Please give me advice. Thanks.
Posted by Taylor
lets hope he grows up.
obviously, you have.:)
Posted by ♡Molly♡
He really needs to grow up!
I know just how you feel! I have an older sister who is exactly the same!
Hang in there, in the end, everything will work out.
Posted by spider pig!!!1
just slap him and tell him to f' off out of the house
Posted by Flirt_Devil
He is going to have to grow up on his own. You just have to keep your mouth shut when he gets on your nerves. One day he will realize what he has done.
Usually people don't have a clue what you are going through unless they go through it themselves. Even with your height issue, he wishes he could be as tall as you but he will still never understand.
There will always be people in your life like this, and your brother is the most prominent cause you see him all the time. You are in a great position with great experiences and that college class you took your senior year. Hey, you don't work at BK.
Don't reciprocate by making fun of him, you do your own thing girl and represent for all the female chicks out there.
On the bright side, at least you get to talk to your brother. My parents isolated me from my older brother and now we barely say a word to each other. He lives in the same house as me but I don't know him at all.
Good luck.
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